From the time we are young, we learned to balance many things on our plate. We’ve been primed our whole life to strive for more, to work harder and longer, make more money, gain more followers, have more friends, and be able to balance it all. But, when does it become too much, and when do we need to start focusing on the quality of our endeavours rather than the quantity?
We only have a finite amount of time in each day, week, month, year, and lifetime. And we only have so much energy and focus to give to our life. So, when we stretch ourselves too thin, and we take on too much, it’s not like we are given bonus hours in the day in order to focus on them. Instead, the responsibility piles up, and we feel like we’re on a never-ending hamster loop of work that we can never catch up on.
How do we stop this?
There are two kinds of energy: force & form.
You can have all of the force in the world, but if there is no form/container to direct that energy into, you will create chaos. This is why setting boundaries and priorities are so important when it comes to creating freedom, because freedom cannot manifest from chaos.
We fix this by setting boundaries. We need to say “no” to the things that are not serving us.
When I did this, I felt like a failure who was giving up. In reality, I was sacrificing my happiness and the life I truly wanted, for things that didn’t matter in the grand scheme of things.
As a result of setting these boundaries, I feel more focused on my goals, and I am much more productive towards them.
So, if you’re someone who is stuck on this everlasting hamster loop of responsibility and burnout, I recommend you look at your life, and more importantly, your priorities and boundaries. While you do this, here are some things to consider:
- What are my values?
- Is what I’m doing right now in alignment with my values and where I want to go in life?
- What in my life is lacking right now?
- What am I not willing to compromise on?
- What things do I need to let go of in order to live a better life?
And remember, not all ideas/relationships/paths are good ones that you need to pursue.
Happy boundary setting!